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Yuri
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Thank you for your reply! I thought about it deeply today and I think I realise where this fear is coming from. Since childhood I’ve been an introvert but my family always told me that I shouldn’t be shy. This was because they wanted me to get along with the neighbourhood kids but over time I began to believe that being an introvert was just not acceptable. By the time I was in high school I was trying really hard to be someone I’m not. This is the period when my first relationship ended in a messy way and I also lost many friends who I was close to. Since I had made up with everyone a few years ago, I considered these things to be insignificant. I thought I had made peace with what had happened but I never imagined that I had been affected in such a way. Looking back, I think this was the time when I started to believe that everyone leaves eventually and since then I’ve acted out this fear in every relationship I’ve had. Today I realised that there’s this child inside me that has been scared and lonely for so long. I feel bad that I didn’t do anything for so long, I didn’t even know she existed but I’m also relieved that now I can take care of myself better and get rid of this fear. Right now I just want to spend time on my own to listen to the child inside me and show her some compassion. Is there anything else you recommend I can do?