Hi Franny,

Ooh..ouch..this is right up my alley after reading your post, because I have been in more online relationships than I care to admit, even with men from other states, Iraq, Pakistan, Egypt, you name it, have been through it all.

While I have not been on Tinder, I used to meet these men on Facebook, Google plus, and online dating sites. What I found, is alot of these men are scammers, many have fake profiles, many lie, once I was even involved with a married man who did not tell me for three months. Then the man from Egypt ended up trying to use me (Catphishing) to get to the United States. I learned the hard way, online dating in very complicated and difficult.

I think what made him back off was that you told him you were “obsessing” over him, and no man wants a woman who makes him her life and world. Men like women who don’t spend time stalking them on social media, they want a woman who loves herself, no drama, no intensity, someone with outside interests, goals, friendships with men and women, maybe doing some volunteer work, a strong secure woman who does not need a man to make them happy, but who wants a man, for unity and common interests,  they value stability, friendship, no suspicion, stalking, doubts, fear, because if you have fear in you, then you can’t have dreams. Try to work on these issues. And the men will come, the right men. Keep us posted okay?

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