Dear Chau:

Of course it is okay for you to post here- anytime. It is a good thing to read from you and reply to you. I am spending more time in front of the computer these days following a foot injury and the resulting inability to walk- that sure rains on my parade, as my life was very physically active before the injury. It is challenging.

A key sentence in your last post, regarding considering ending the friendship with your friend: “may be deep down i am afraid of losing it all, well, while i havent even got it.”

I am thinking, as you continue to communicate with her, you might still be hoping that the friendship will develop to a love relationship, that she will change her mind. And you want to lose that hope, is that correct? As long as you hope, you get disappointed, and the loss (in the sentence I quoted) is the imagined/hoped for relationship with her.

You are doing well jogging, working, life is good, you wrote; so maybe you don’t want to lose good living, a good enough state of mind and affairs,  to futile hoping.

I am not surprised your ex is still on your mind: you still long for a love relationship and you are not engaged in one, so you dream about the last one you had. When you meet an interested woman, where the interest is mutual, and a love relationship does develop, the longing for the ex will cease, I figure.

Post anytime-

anita