Dear Cloud:

You referred to yourself as demisexual ( a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone), asexual (a person who has no sexual feelings or desires), and homoromantic (inclined to have a romantic relationship or fall in love with an individual of the same gender). You are thirty, a virgin and okay with not having a sexual relationship ever in your future. You want to for a friendship with a woman, and then if it is a loving friendship, then maybe it will proceed, over time, to be physical/ sexual but the woman involved with you will have to be very gentle and patient with you.

I think I understand this part. You repeatedly wrote about your ex friend that she took advantage of you. She looked for your attention while you wanted her love. I wonder: how did she take advantage of you… what did she promise that she didn’t deliver. (You might have answered this in a previous post and I missed it?)

anita