Hi Rox,

I would just give him some space. Don’t contact him. Many men will say they are hurt, and they hurt for awhile, but he may still get in touch. I wouldn’t hold on to hope, but if he does, don’t bring up any intensity, drama, just try to keep your emotions and feeling in check. Although, we as women, so get emotional, it’s usually best, when you get overheated to bring it up to a therapist or talk to a friend on the phone.

Men want to come home to no conflict, tension, intensity, fear, insecurity, someone begging them. You can casually mention, you are in a support group to get control over your outbursts and emotions, and that’s all you have to say.

In the meantime, I would use this time away to work on these issues that drive this man away, or it will come up in your next relationships. Self help books, mindfulness, therapy, anger management, emotion regulation, therapy, a 12 step support group such as emotions Anonymous are all great places to start you on the way to healthier, less turbulent relationships. Keep us posted.