Hi H,

Can you do me a favor? When you get some time. Write down columns on a peice of paper. There is no time limit or deadline to give yourself, think of it as healthy homework for your mind, and positive energy. As days go by, or maybe week, two weeks, keep filling up those columns. It’s alot of thinking but worth the effort.

First column: Title it:

1. What are my strengths? What have people told me I do well? What have people told me about my physical appearance, that I have a nice smile? That I have nice eyes? That I’m good with children? Good with animals? Am I dependable? Am I a good friend? Am I caring? Am I thoughtful, remember people’s birthdays, etc. Am I a giving person? Am I good at Basketball, football, tennis, chess, trivia games, etc. Am I funny?
2. 2nd Column: What do I love about myself? Am I kind? Polite? Considerate? A good driver? Good at Athletics? Love to be around children and/ or animals? Do I make people laugh? Do I call people to check up on them if they are sick? Do I volunteer or help others? What did I love to do as a child that made me happy? Paint? Draw? If I did these things now, that made me happy as a child, how would it make me feel about myself? Am I a good friend? A good cook?

This is how you love yourself, and gives you security in yourself. When you see all the great qualities other people have told you, or you feel about yourself, is a great beginning to loving yourself, and these qualities are what makes a woman love you, for who you are. Lastly, never think you have to be clingy, desperate or try so hard to have a relationship, or you Psych yourself out. Look at all your wonderful qualities. Put them in sticky notes everywhere around, In your kitchen, your bathroom mirror, wherever you will see it every day. Gradually, you will begin to see yourself as a wonderful human being with so much to offer. All you have to do is believe it.