Dear None:

You are very welcome. As far as the ex co-worker is concerned, I don’t know anything about her life other than it is probably not true that “she is probably happily married and she doesn’t seem like a person that is not happy with her life”- I think people who repeatedly and intentionally hurt people are not motivated by happiness.

As far as your sister is concerned, seems to me like she is not motivated to hurt you by happiness either. But regardless of how happy/ content or unhappy a person is, a person needs to be aware of their behavior, and care not to unnecessarily hurt another. This is every person’s social responsibility, be it the ex co-worker who bullied you, the boss who didn’t protect you from being bullied, and your sister who has been mistreating you and betraying your trust in her for quite some time.

Mentioning trust, as you can see in your own life, a family member can betray a trust, so can a supervisor at work, so can anyone. And so, before you share with a person, learn who that person is you are sharing with: is he/ she trustworthy? If their behavior indicates they are not, protect yourself from that person best you can, whenever and wherever possible, at home, at work, and everywhere else.

Post again anytime with your thoughts and feelings, I would like that.

anita