Hi Flossy73,

I can understand being concerned, but I don’t think you should be too anxious, as you say these are “old” e-mails that past loves has sent him. He did not return their e-mails or call them (or did you see evidence of this on his phone). If you ever want to check who he has been talking to you can go to instant checkmark for com and type in the phone number to see who he he has been talking to.

These ex’s might now be married, have boyfriends, etc. Maybe he just considers them friends now. I have ex’s that I am still friends with, but I no longer feel any chemistry with. I wouldn’t jump to any conclusions. It is very difficult to rekindle old flames, especially with the woman from 5 years ago. However, I do feel trust is a major key to a healthy relationship, and I can see where that trust has been broken. He should have not lied to you. Maybe he didn’t want you jumping to conclusions, if he wishes to be friends with these women, or why he chooses to keep old e-mails. I would come straight out and ask him, in a non-accusing way, if he misses them, or why he keeps their e-mails. And that it makes you feel unsure of his true feelings toward you. I’m sure it is probably nothing, but I do agree he should have been honest, but be prepared when he asks why you went through his phone. Keep us posted.