Dear Hannah:

You don’t have to “forgive and forget” and often enough, it is not a good idea. If you hold a person responsible for their behavior and remember their behavior, then you can protect yourself from abusive behavior. If you forgive-and-forget abusive behavior, you will experience more and more of it.

You wrote that he verbally abused you (post before last), and in your recent post, you wrote that he said a lot of hurtful things to you. Can you give a couple of examples of such hurtful/ abusive things he said to you?

anita