Hi Apples,

It sounds like you’re feeling restless.  As someone who moved around a lot my whole life, I understand what it feels like to feel more “at home” in some places than others (for instance, some people prefer city living vs. suburbs/country living or close to the mountains vs. close to the beach).  It seems like you want a balance between the comforts of home and friends vs. a new adventure with a new place and people.  It also seems like your job(s) have also been unfulfilling too.  Sometimes it’s difficult to decide which is the most important thing to focus on: finding a new job, a new place to live, or being close to family and friends.  Luckily, with social media, we’re able to contact (and even see via FaceTime, etc.) the people we care about on a more regular basis.  You have to figure out which of those things are the most important to you.  Where do you get your energy?  Where do you feel like you can become a better version of yourself?  Where can you fulfill some of your dreams?  In what ways/areas of your life do you want to challenge yourself and grow?

Don’t wait to find a husband to find satisfaction in your life.  Even if/when you do find a life partner, he will never be able to meet all of your needs.  That’s why having friends, close family members, a fulfilling career, and interesting hobbies/passions in your life will make you a better partner.  You have to learn to fill yourself up with the things that make you happy so that you can ADD to someone else’s life and make it more rich.  And hopefully, he will be able to do the same for you.  The more full and interesting your life is, the more someone else will be interested in you too.  It’s not that 2 “halves” make a whole in a relationship.  It’s that 2 whole people can create something even better and more magnificent.

No one can ever tell you what to do or where to go or what’s best for you.  That’s something that only you can do for yourself by getting quiet and really listening to your intuition/heart/soul.  It always speaks to you.  You just have to be willing to listen.  It will always point you to things that make you feel good.  Things that bring you joy.  You just have to have the courage to ignore your mind (and/or other people) that tells you what you “should” do and, instead, follow your heart that leads you to where you’re meant to go.  And remember, even if you end up not liking a decision you make, you can always make a new one.  By learning more about what you don’t want, you become more clear about what you do want.  There are always lessons to learn along the way.

Good luck whatever you decide to do.

Take Care!

Dawn