Dear Yassin:

It is heathy to be sensitive this way: if a person is hurting you and as a result you feel hurt, then you can respond to the situation by protecting yourself from future hurt, maybe asserting yourself with the person that hurt you. In this way, being sensitive, that is feeling hurt, is healthy as it leads to behavior that helps you.

On the other hand if someone is not hurting you, but you feel hurt anyway (for example, you expected a person to “read your mind” and do what you want them to do without telling them), then the feeling of hurt does not indicate that in reality, someone hurt you. And so, you don’t follow with behavior that is helpful to you.

Mental health is about our feelings indicating to us what is really happening, in reality.

You wrote that you are “confused and worry why i always expect the loved ones to act as i expected”- as a child, do you remember, being very alone, not seen, feeling distress and no one helping you, no one asking you what is wrong?

* will soon be away from the computer for hours.

anita