Hi Jeff,

Sorry today was hard for you.  But I know your life is not purposeless, especially with your kids in the picture.  And for any of you without kids, you still have a purpose as well.  We all do.  It just takes time to figure it out, if you’re willing to search your heart and soul for the answers.  In my opinion, we are all here to learn to give and receive love.  As a parent, I know I have learned the most about unconditional love from my kids.  No matter what they do or say, I have an unconditional regard for them and know their sweetness and perfection (as I remember them as innocent babies.  Sometimes it’s a little harder when they’re teenagers – haha!). Anyways, we need to learn to have that for ourselves as well.  We have struggles, challenges, failures.  Times when we feel we can’t move forward.  Times when we feel so numb that it’s hard for us to get out of bed.  The challenge is how do we overcome it and redefine our life.  Or better yet, recreate our life.   How do we find relief, and start taking steps toward how we want our life to be, rather than accepting where we are?  How do we learn to be alone and not feel so lonely?  How do we learn to love and accept ourselves (unconditionally) as we are, while still striving to become better versions of ourselves.

One day at a time…  Honor your feelings.  Feel your feelings.  Allow your feelings to teach you.  Allow your experiences to teach you more about who you are and what you value in life.  Allow your challenges to change you for the better.  Even if you have a hard time today doing those things,  you can try again tomorrow.  And the next day.  And the next day.  Hopefully, one day it will become easier, and the next even easier.  It might take awhile.  But there is always hope.  Because, you and I and all of us are worth it and worthy of love.  Giving and receiving love.

Jeff, If you hadn’t experienced what you are experiencing now, none of us would be here on this thread sharing and caring for you and each other.  Even though this is difficult for you, I think this is a beautiful and magical thing that is happening right here.  We are all parts of each others’ puzzles, giving and receiving love and helping make the world a little bit better place.

Thanks to all of you who have reached out to Jeff and spoken with your hearts.  You have all affected mine.  I hope this helps you too Jeff.

And to answer X’s question about if we’re all whole and complete, then why do we need anybody.  1+1=All of Us.  We were born with an innate need for love and connection (that’s why babies love to be held).  That’s why we need God (or whatever you call it) and that’s why we need each other.  Not in a needy way, but in a Loving and Giving Way.  I need you because I love you and because I am whole and have so much love to give, I can’t possibly keep it to myself.  Find the love within yourself and for yourself, and you will be better able to give it to others.

Take Care!

Dawn