Dear Needthelight:

I hope you do get the courage to do what you believe is the right thing to do. Will it make it easier for you if you communicated in writing to your boyfriend that you need to live separately (instead of talking to him face to face)?

I also wonder if you can stay in contact with the boyfriend, that is, not make the separation complete- live separately, let’s say, but remain in a relationship with him? This will allow the visitations between your son and his father, will make the proposed separation easier for you to bring up… would it?

anita