Dear wildoceanflower:

You wrote: “We all know when we have done wrong, dont we?”- people don’t always know when doing something wrong. Often enough wrong is done because of lack of attention, not because of an intention.

“maybe not all of us when we cant stand the thought of having to back down, therefore the ego”- and many people will not admit doing wrong no matter what.

“Maybe they dont care that i am hurting and alone because they are okay”- often the case, people care only about how they feel, turning a blind eye to what others feel, true often, unfortunately, to parents in regard to their children.

“Maybe they think if they cant see it, it doesnt exist!!”- I think so.

“he (your father) has no empathy!… they (your father and mother) dont deal well with honest talk, bringing something up means a huge emotional fight. My mom really only communicates through high emotion. Everything is swept under the carpet. I am SOOO angry inside! ..i just wish i could have some peace”-

I think you are angry because you are still hoping for your parents to change, to attend to how you feel, care about how you feel, communicate honestly with you. You are still trying, still “bringing something up”, still trying. For as long as you are trying, you will stay trapped in that anger.

anita