Hi Connie,

I think I feel related with your ex as how you described it “Maybe he’s so hurt that he doesn’t think things will ever work out again, but at the meantime he’s not ready to let go everything yet. Regardless how painful the breakup is to him, he still chooses to not return.”

I am also like that. My ex partner asked me to get back together couple times but I could never give the answer. It’s because I have some hesitations. Afraid that we both will get hurt again and at the same time, we still have strong attachment and can’t let go yet. And I think the best solution is to take a step back and cut off contacts for some times. That’s what I’m doing. I mean, if you’re meant for each other, you will be. But if not, maybe it is just it is. That no answer is the answer itself. Let both of you grow to be better person first. That’s what I think. Hope it helps.