Hi Nan,

If your first husband wasn’t in the picture, would you get a divorce anyway? I’m thinking if the marriage was that bad, you wouldn’t need an excuse of a new (old) person to exit. You should start your own escape whether the first guy was around or not.

Unfortunately, with these separated guys, three years becomes ten years, and there’s always something. Of course he reconnected with you! You represent youth, second chances and what ifs! This could be just a nice fantasy for him. Or he desperately wants out and is dead serious. But this divorce/money battle is something he should go through on his own.

And it’s true about the finances. Let’s say you end up together. You will both be stressed out and you will probably “carry” him into his old age.

I would just keep him as a lover.

Best,

Inky