Anita,

You asked : “What was the relationship like?”

It was everything to me at that time. I feel like I met … a soulmate? We spend our first date talking for 5 hours non stop about a lot of things. From fashion, politics, university stuff, to music. When I am with him, I feel safe. I feel like I won’t be judge for anything. I can speak anything to him, truthfully and comfortably. He will listen to me, and give a lot of meaningful advices. He gave me a new way to look at my life. He told me how I should be myself around him. I feel accepted and loved when I am with him. He never once made any rude remarks about my personality or my appearance. He always respected my space and my personal choices. He never pushes his opinion on me, never forces anything on me at all. His friends treated me very well. He motivated me to be more “tough” in this world, hat I should learn to say “no” sometimes to defend myself. He was my boyfriend, my best friend and a role model in some ways to me. He protected me and loved me.

You asked : “How often did you see him, in person?”

Countless times. I mentioned before that we are a college couple. We shared a lot of friends together, went to the same school festival, went on our own dates, tried met up for lunch or dinner every time we had a free time, lived only 15 minutes away by bus. We met up at least once a week.

You asked : “How much time did you spend together and what was the nature of that time?”

It was a short period of time. Around 3-4 months. We started very good, things got a bit rocky when he came to me and cried, telling me about how he is thinking about moving college due to various reasons I have stated before in my previous reply to you in this thread. At that time, we made a commitment to me that we would try to make the relationship work regardless the military service and the distance due to the moving college thing. It was good again, until he broke it off. He told me that logically – it is not possible for us to stay together and it was emotionally too tiring for him to date anyone at this moment in his life.

You asked : “What was the nature of that partnership?”

I simply used the word partner because he was more than a boyfriend to me, that is all. We have never lived together. We just support each other during good and bad times. Since we broke up on a really good (too good) terms, we have a good friendship going on. Like I have already wrote before, the reason why we are not together is not because we do not love each other anymore. It is because we love each other very much that we are letting it go. We have our own different plans and dreams, throwing it away for one particular person seems silly to both of us.

Take your time in answering. I am willing to answer any question regarding the nature of the relationship if it is necessary for you to make a useful feedback.

-Mina.