Hi Gloris,

For any relationship to work out, there has to be a foundation of friendship first. Chemistry, good looks, a super hot body, is nice, but superficial, and only leads to a quick intensity of infatuation. The infatuation stage lasts only so long, and then you have nothing to fall back on such as a genuine friendship, caring, respect and liking for one another.

I would suggest, taking things slow. Focus on What’s on the inside, not on the outside. Looks fade over time. Become friends, enjoy each other’s company, try not to get “intense” too quick, no matter how “hot” he may be. Ask yourself questions beyond “chemistry and lust, physical appearance. Is he a good listener? Does he make you laugh? Is he a good conversationalist? Does he treat his friends, you and his family with respect? How can he enhance your life? How can you enhance his? These qualities are what make a good foundation for a commited relationship. Don’t ever sleep with a man until you get to know him well, because they will consider you a “hook up” and ghost you. They quickly lose respect. Let him get to know you, go slow and take it from there.