Hi, Sam

You are 19. Have you finnished school yet?

I went through something similair. When I was 12 I was severly bullied at school. People were mean and I was the quiet kid. The girls were horrible. I am also not bad looking, but at least in my country the problem with cat calling was less, although I know what you mean there too, because I’ve visited such countries and it was frustrating. I really beliave there is no much to be done against it- even if you cover yourself from head to toe…and why should you? It is not your fault! I also get friendship requests from men all the time. I dont answer, just ignore everyone I dont know. Not worth your time!

Till I turned 14 my grades were horribble. Then an aunt who lived abroad invited me and for the first time in my life I was in an foreign culture. And guess what? People were a lot politer there!

I realized the place I grew up was so flawed. And I waited patiently to finnish school, I learned the language of the other country, I prepared. My notes were good, because I had a goal. Four years I waited and then the time came- I left when I was 18, alone.

And that was the best decision I ever made in my life! It was not easy and one has to be brave to leave alone , but hey, it was worth it!

I would advice you to try living somewhere else, because even if you end up returning to Malaysia one day you will be a different person and you will know it was not your fault. Sometimes one does not fit in a certain society.

Now I know that if I return to my home country I would know where to seek for the right people and which to avoid. But I could not know that without leaving!

“Why do you go away? So that you can come back. So that you can see the place you came from with new eyes and extra colors. And the people there see you differently, too. Coming back to where you started is not the same as never leaving.”
― Terry Pratchett, A Hat Full of Sky<

If you wish to talk, feel free to contact me 🙂

Wish you the best!

Diyana