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  • September 6, 2017 at 10:28 am #167370
    KaCee
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    Hello All.

    I have never done anything like this before, so please bare with me. I am a married woman of almost 20 years, we are high school sweethearts. I ended up pregnant last of senior year and had our wonderful son in December of 99. And from that point on, I dropped everything and lived for my son and husband. I left all my friends, stopped all my hobbies, and basically lived my life for the 2 of them. Now, fast forward almost 18 years later and I am lost. My son is now grown, has his own friends and hobbies, and his own life, a senior in high school, and doesn’t need me like he used to…..and then my husband has worked a third shift job for the last 2.5 years and we don’t see much of each other. I have literally been by myself for the last 2.5 years. We do see each other about an hour a day, and on his day off about 6 hours. Other than work (that is a man place, but a small office of 3 woman-whom I am not close with any), my days are pretty lonely.

    I am lost when it comes to making new friends. I am not outgoing, I am very shy (until you get to know me), and I have no idea what to do to fill my life with purpose…..and I don’t mean that in a negative way, but I sit at home in my bedroom and stare at the wall for hours, this is no lie.

    Does anyone out there have any suggestions? I am not close with my family, not a good relationship with my mother, don’t know my father, my brother and sister have their own lives and don’t reach out much.

    I think there may be something wrong with me……I am not the most confident person.

    I am 36 by the way. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

     

    Thank you so much!

    September 6, 2017 at 11:24 am #167388
    vic
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    Hey, KaCee! There’s a website called meetup . com that is really useful for finding people with similar interests to you! Meditation groups, book clubs, etc.

    I would personally recommend really indulging in self-care as well. There’s hundreds of YouTube videos about it at this point – the younger generation is all about self-love. Really discover who KaCee is, what she wants, what pleases her and what issues she has to work through. You deserve to be your own best friend and love yourself unconditionally.

    Prayers also always help. Ask and/or thank your Angels for bringing the perfect friend in to your life at the perfect time (perfect does NOT equal flawless!) and for the comfort that they provide to you.

    September 6, 2017 at 12:54 pm #167434
    Anonymous
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    Dear KaCee:

    My suggestion: join an acting class. In improvisational acting exercises, with the guidance of a gifted teacher, you learn, and practice, to come out of yourself, to express to others, to communicate and do so with a sense of freedom.

    anita

    September 6, 2017 at 8:00 pm #167546
    June
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    Hi KaCee,

    I bet many women feel that way once their kid/s grow up. We are conditioned to put other people’s needs ahead of our own. Luckily you are young, and have lots of living ahead. It’s time to focus on You now. Become your own best friend first. Try to find out what most interests you; what are you passionate about ? It may take some time. Often things we loved as children are still important as adults. Then go where others have similar interests. Maybe try some adult Ed courses. The Internet is unlimited in resources. Adult friendships are usually based on common interests. Because you are on this site, possibly meditation, or Buddhist groups would appeal to you. One way to overcome shyness is to focus on other people. Treat them how you want to be treated, and you will connect with others. There is nothing wrong with you. You will still be a wife and mother, but one with expanded interests of your own. I wish you well on your self discovery !

    Be Well, June

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