Hi Michelle,

I don’t think it had anything to do with your behavior or insecurity. But his behavior and him deliberately putting you in an awkward situation. He may not have dated this girl, but he had sex with her, and that would make anyone feel uncomfortable. I think he was quite disrespectful of you and your feelings. He should have taken your feelings into considetation, shown more empathy instead of being critical and yelling at you. This is very disrespectful and no way to treat a girlfriend or someone you love.

Instead of “blowing” up next time, which is not working, and making things worse, assert yourself and set boudaries. Tell him you will not go anywhere where there are women around that he has had sex with. And leave it at that. Instead, go out with your friends, showing him you can be fine and independent without him and his disrespectful behavior. What if the tables, were turned and you took him to a bar where your ex’s were, how would be feel? Best to tell him, for him not to put you in that position again, that it is creating too much turmoil in the relationship, and maybe you can go to a movie or a romantic drive or dinner instead. There’s lots of things he can do without going to bars with ex’s around.