Dear Anita,

I was reading your message and trying to look away – I’m still ashamed and I’m so afraid of judgment. But your answer was full of compassion and reason, and for that I thank you so much.

I did go and buy food. I didn’t really deprive him, but I was more ashamed of him finding out I eat cold food at inappropriate times, standing up in the kitchen. I don’t want him to think I’m a freak. It was such a ridiculous scene.

I’m trying to rationalise now and deal with just a little bit of shame.What you said really resonates with me cause I don’t think you can live without shame – it’s a good human emotion. But it needs to stay under control.

Thank you so much Anita!

Tatjana