Dear vanessaa:

It is a good thing to assert yourself, to have “practised self-respect, and (be) relieved of the burden of hiding my resentment”-

It is a good thing to no longer “blame (yourself) whenever things go wrong” –

Thing is, as we try to correct our inclinations and behaviors, we often go too far to the other side, over-correct, seeing the blame in another when, at times, she or he is not to blame, or the blame may be shared.

It is possible that your now ex friend was trying to be helpful when she said you overthought a certain topic. Maybe she was frustrated when she said that and still, she may have been correct. And maybe she felt that her sincere input was disregarded and was offended.

In our interactions with others, most often there is a shared responsibility to what takes place, inaccurate projections and interpretations taking place, feeling from the past activated and interrupting our understanding of present happenings.

Do you think this may have happened, an over-correction, a going too far to the other side, from self blame to other blame?

anita