Dear Ash:

Rationally you probably know that your parents not having been emotionally available to you does not indicate lack of worth on your part, not being good enough. To know this emotionally is a different thing.

As a result of their unavailability, I am thinking, you developed a core belief: that you are not good enough, not worthy enough. This core belief is held in place by emotion, like glue. If you say to yourself now: I am worthy. I am good enough- that doesn’t dissolve that glue holding this belief in place.

Changing such untrue core beliefs, such that maintain our anxiety and distress, such that lead to dysfunction is a necessary work in psychotherapy, if it is of quality. Any such work done?

anita