Dear soafaloaf:

You are feeling “intense regret and sadness”. You yearn for another pregnancy.  You want to let go of the decision that was already made, to abort but you are stuck, I suppose.

You wrote: “I don’t want my partner to suffer any more”.

My input: abortion, lots of people feel so intensely about it. I didn’t experience all the feelings about it that others experience but I did experience suffering and witnessed lots of in others who often pass it on.

I believe suffering should be minimized, and so, I hope you minimize your own and your partner’s suffering, no longer engaging in “behaviour patterns that are self – destructive” and no longer “taking out all (your) anger and frustration on him”

anita