Hi Amanda,

It sounds he may be confused..and not emotionally available, and fully committed to a relationship at this time. He feels he may be consoling you by “saying” he wants to be in a relationship, only if the grass is not greener on the other side on Tinder, he will at least know he will have you a a back up plan to fall back on.

A man who truly wants to be in a relationship shows it in action, not half hearted promises and vagueness and keeping you guessing and doubting. The fact that he is on Tinder knowing you don’t like it is disrespectful to you. So, is not showing any attention to you or communication. We all have basic needs, and he is not giving you any basic needs at all. Nor investing any energy in the relationship or moving things forward, preferring to remain stagnant.