Dear Fruzsina:

You’ve been worried about your boyfriends’ “closed off nature” as the reason for your dissatisfaction in the relationship and otherwise, when thinking about the relationship.

But even though you have a very close relationship with your mother (and sister), even though you talk for hours at a time, about anything and everything, that openness, that mutual availability and closeness, has done nothing to resolve your anxiety, has it? Not during your relationship with your boyfriend and not before you met your boyfriend.

If you agree with my last paragraph, how do you explain that a close, open relationship (what you wish you had with your boyfriend but already have otherwise) did not and does not resolve your anxiety and distress?

anita