Dear Ciara:

You kissed a relative, one year younger than yourself, when you were 12 or 13. You are 18 now and it still bothers you that you did.

First, as to your question about should you confess: you wrote that the relative probably doesn’t remember. If it was just a kiss, and there was no violence involved, no threats or such, then he or she probably does not remember. And so, better not confess.

At the time you discovered porn, you wrote. Watching porn then was not a good idea. Neither is it now, I believe. Are you still watching porn?

anita