Hi Eitherway,

What about setting up a “mini date” or “short date”? Maybe because things started too quickly, she may feel awkward or intimitated, and feel that there has to be kissing or other intimate actions called, perhaps that is why she is getting cold feet.

Try to stay away from a “pen-pal” relationship with her via texting. I know I’m this day and age it is hard, but it creates distance and lack of substance or real communication. If she texts you, tell her your phone is “acting up” and would she mind talking on the phone instead. Let her get to know you other than short sentences on a phone screen. Instead of a long elaborate date, ask her out for a quick cup of coffee, that way the pressure will be off, and she won’t back out. She must be somewhat interested if she is at least agreeing to a date and still communicating with you. I think it is pressure and intimidation holding her back. Maybe she feels you are “expecting” something. Just some thoughts.