Dear Monica:

Regarding your post before last: the fact that you have been consistent and kept posting (#1) made it possible for me to learn this much about you. The fact that you have been detailed and clear (#2) made it possible for me to understand as much as I have so far. The fact that you have been open to suggestion and advice (#4) and that you have been willing to explore more about your problems and provide honest information to me (#5) encouraged me to keep communicating with you.

Regarding your most recent post, you mentioned the following values which have not and are not my motivation to communicate with you: your attendance of a prestigious university (KU), your clothes/ dressing well, you having a boyfriend, being pretty, being smart (beyond the ability to learn and communicate, that is), having money.

My answer to my question to you:  “what value (that I see in you) motivates me to communicate with you?”-

your need to be accepted approvingly, to be loved and to love in return.

If you could see this value in you and in others, you will feel this ongoing calm, in between the stresses of daily life, a calm that will carry you through.

anita