Dear Anita,

It depends on what each of us thinks of love, yes. I have been feeling very guilty for 2 years for leaving him, even though I did because I couldn’t stay there any longer. I think we should have done therapy earlier, but we didn’t have that opportunity. There is a book called The Love Languages, and the way I see love is through actions, and quality time. I think the way he sees love is through words of affirmation and gifts. This is the way he showed me love. But sometimes we have to love the other person the way they understand it. I don’t give him any compliments, and I have blocked everything about me to him, because I think it will prevent him from moving on. So you are right, sometimes we have to love the person by the way what’s best for them. And as his ex fiance, perhaps the best for him is to be with someone that fits in his life and his professional future better.