Dear Nightflower:

Reads to me that you want to give him the time and space but it makes you angry to do so. You feel hurt and angry. The resentment that you are afraid to feel when he goes to Asia without you is anger you already feel.

In other words, your intent is to “support him no matter what”, but you can’t stomach the no-matter-what.

It is your right, of course, to terminate this relationship and look for a man who is settled and satisfied with his career and has no travel plans. But if you choose to be with him, and do the right thing by him, as you expressed, then you will need to find a way to stomach what he needs to do, to figure out a way for you to endure the distress without burdening him with it.

anita