Hi Wanderlust16,

Relationships are assignments from Life. They do give a lot of learnings and ‘work to do’ for us and I see that you have already realized this by your below statement.

“..I believe we were brought together to help each other grow and evolve. I dug deep into this dynamic and in the process I learned a lot about me and many issues that I need to work on so that I don’t repeat the same patterns and if I do, it means I’m not there mentally yet and it’s ok..”

I suggest you gradually work in the direction of all those things that you mention you have learned a lot about in the relationship. While you slowly do that I will suggest you a few things below based on my experience.

I too had similar issues. People, especially of the opposite gender, used to cling to me in the head and it was very very painful to release them. ” It is ruining my inner peace with lack of good sleep and a pulsing heart beats.” I felt like you felt.

The vibes that you felt while connecting to this person are part of a Karmic force. An undercurrent that you cannot control/resist no matter what, because that is the force of Life, enforcing you to go into that relationship, experience the experiences that are required for the evolution of your soul. “All my close friends said they would ask if everything is ok”. During this time, people’s opinion, which is also a part of this collective force, will drag you back to the situation, until it subsides by itself. So if a relationship, due to this force (which is nothing but Life), stays along with us, is good for us and even if it goes away is still for our good because the healing is happening at a soul level.

The undercurrent has lessened a bit now as you do not want to go back to this person. But the residue is still there and you need to “heal” that and I am going to suggest you on that.

It is good that you do not have any ill feelings about this person else your healing process would take a bit more time.

1) Chant the below as many times as you can to break the karmic link about the person/situation. Either mentally, loudly or softly or however you feel comfortable.

Format:

I _______ FORGIVE YOU ________, YOU ALSO PLEASE FORGIVE ME AND RELEASE ME, THANK YOU.

Example:

I FORGIVE YOU , YOU ALSO PLEASE FORGIVE ME AND RELEASE ME, THANK YOU.

Practice it for a week and let me know about your progress.

2) For your sleep issues:

Count from 1 to 100 but backwards.

ie; 100 . . . 99 . . . 98 . . . and so on, till you reach 1.

Don’t do this as if you are sitting for meditation. Lie down on your bed with all your blankets and lights off as if you are again off to sleep.

Close your eyes and start the counting.

While doing this either of 3 things will happen-

i. You will start with 100 and at some point you may get disturbed by the thoughts about this person (or something else).

Allow yourself to think whatever that is. Then when you have caught yourself thinking, come back mentally and continue from the number where you had stopped, if you remember the number. If you do not remember, then you can start from 100.

You can even use your imagination. With it, your mind will be less drifted towards this person or anything else. ie; When your eyes are closed, its all blacked out. Mentally/using your visualization, draw the numbers while counting them or use a mental white chalk and write it on the black screen in front of your eyes.

OR

ii. You will suddenly realize that your numbers are wrong.

If you remember the number where you went wrong, then start with that else you can begin from 100.

OR

iii. You will reach the number 1.

If so, Repeat the exercise again.

OR

iv. You will go off to sleep.

You will not even know the number when you went off to sleep if you try to remember the next day morning.

I can guarantee that you will go off to sleep.

Do let me know your progress on your sleep starting tonight.

Best Regards,

~VJ