Dear Casey:

Of course it is your right to determine what behaviors to accept and what to reject, what relationship to engage in and what to withdraw from. My point, restated is this: reads to me that when you demanded clarity from him, he didn’t have it to give you. He can’t tell you where you stand with him if it is not clear to him.

So when you pressure him to be clear with you, that hurts the relationship. Again, you have the right to look for a man who clearly states what he wants, for example, a man may tell you: I am looking for a partner in life, I want to get married in the next year. But if you are involved with a man who doesn’t have this clarity, then pressuring him is ineffective.

Does that make sense to you?

anita