Hi anita,

Thanks for your comment. I guess I don’t see my parents as ‘perfectly perfect’ like you mentioned. However, I do see that we love each other unconditionally. Certain situations may have triggered my mum’s reaction (silent treatments) towards me, and I completely understand why. I do feel that I did do something wrong/flawed back then to trigger her reaction towards me that way. Looking back, I can understand it.

In a way, I am starting to forgive myself more – giving myself more leeway to ‘screw things up’. It’s only human nature that we are flawed, but accepting that one can make mistakes, recognize those mistakes, and take steps to remedy them is more important to me. Whatever applies to me, also applies to other people. So I am trying to see that people around me should also be given the same ‘treatment’ that I give to myself.

A quote in the show ‘Masters of Sex’ stuck out to me. It reads: You’re not your worst part. The way I understood this quote is that people have good and bad in them, and that we should not try to judge people based on their flaws. Of course, how much leeway I will give to people depends on how much I love them and whether I care enough to keep them in my life. I love my parents and they will always be my parents, so I do have a lot of reason to keep them around. My parents have always inspired and supported me. Even if we don’t tell each other that, I know that we love each other.

Perhaps, instead of thinking that there is something fundamentally wrong with me, I should accept my faults and try to make myself better everyday. What are your thoughts?