Dear gypsygirl:

You have been dating your boyfriend only a few months. He can’t financially support himself, you wrote. And you have immediate needs, it is my understanding: to move away from your parents’ home. Rents are too expensive.

I think that you miss your past relationship because you are unhappy living with your parents, because you don’t see your boyfriend providing for you financially any time soon. You miss your ex boyfriend’s ability to provide you with a place to live.

Your ex boyfriend yelled at you and called you names. Your current boyfriend is empathetic and kind to you. This to me means that the ex boyfriend would not be an option for me, if I was you. Long term, with the new boyfriend, I would consider making up for his passivity with my own strength, work together as a team and make it a strong team.

Problem is the relationship is so new and your needs are immediate. Did I understand your situation correctly?

anita