Thank you for your quick responses!

Mark – those are all really helpful tips. I especially think that focusing on the future will help keep me out of the past. Thank you for your advice.

Anita – the ex is definitely not an option, I do not want to go back to that relationship even though these feelings have been triggered. I don’t think it is only about a place to live, as I am trying my best to make do with the current situation. I think it is more that I feel I have to be the more decisive, assertive, less sensitive/emotional one and I am not comfortable “wearing the pants” in the relationship. I guess I am asking if there is a way for me to increase my comfort level with that or if there is a way to kindly encourage these traits in him or if there is something else you would suggest. Thank you for your feedback!