Dear Galaxy:

You wrote that it makes you angry that your sister tells you to get earplugs and you “don’t know why”-I think I know why. You asserted yourself with her, told her that her talking all night (or long into the night) bothers you. She didn’t take your feelings seriously, didn’t respond to you respectfully. She should have, if she was a decent sister and person. She should have limited her talking on the phone, not talk  past a certain hour agreed by both, and otherwise lower the volume of her voice.

When she told you to  get earplugs, her message was: your problem, you take care of it. I am not  going to do anything to help you.

It is difficult to live with a loud person when you value silence or quiet voices and it is more difficult to live with a person who does not value your feelings and will not help to relieve your distress.

I hope she doesn’t live there for long. I suppose your parents own the home, is there a way for them to  enforce some house rules on her, as a condition for her living there?

anita