Dear  Lisa:

I am glad you answered my two questions. What a relief it is for  me to be acknowledged by you, on your thread, that is to be answered. I don’t feel Alone now, on your thread.

You wrote that you look forward to my posts to you because I am one of a  handful of people who see something worthwhile in you and actually say it  to you. It  is true, I do see you as worthy and will say it again, any time you want to read  it.

I am indeed glad you answered me. I am now motivated to respond to you again and again, for as long as  you keep posting, for as  long as  you would like me  to.

As to the proof, that your core belief is  not true- no one can prove that to you unless they provide a counter  experience for you, an experience different that what lead to the formation of your core belief. The proof will look something like this, I  imagine: a single man has to pursue you, repeatedly, consistently, reliably. He will have to never criticize you, to always  be kind to you. He will have to  provide for you so that you are not exposed to other people, so that  your body rests and heals best it can from your many years  of  hard work. He will have to nurse you when you are sick a nd  endure the times  of your distress. He will have to be there for  you always. And when you get angry at him (because of old  hurts and  old betrayals). he will have  to endure and be kind to you nonetheless. Always.

I don’t think anything less will do, correct? And  even such a saint  of a man may not be enough. I don’t know.

There is no arguing with life experience. You really were betrayed by your mother, your father,  other family members, and  other people throughout your life. This experience formed your core belief, how you feel about life and what you can expect from people. The little acts of kindness that you received and  receive, are  simply not enough, I don’t think. Are  they.

anita