Dear Ash:

Regarding #1, a red flag for me is that he stated that he “knows how women think”, that is, he doesn’t see a distinction between individual women’s thinking, assuming they all think alike.

And it reads to me that he doesn’t think highly of “how women think”, and therefore, of how you think.

In addition to that, reads to me, that he feels much anger about what he perceives to be “how women think”, having read his behavior toward you in your original post.

You referred to your experience with him as a “Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde experience”- I suppose he hid his anger at times, that he needs a woman in his life on one hand, and that on the other he is angry at women. When he needs more than he is angry, he acts nice toward the woman; when he is angry more than he needs a particular woman, he is rude and abusive.

anita