Dear crawford:

This relationship you have been having with this young woman is a sick relationship, and has been bad for you and bad for her.

You lied to her, used her money deceitfully, had sex with her even though you didn’t want to, faked it. She on the other hand guilt tripped you (“when I don’t do what she wants she starts guilt-tripping me”). She knows you don’t want to do things and doesn’t mind pressuring you to do those things (“she makes me do stuff I don’t want and she knows it”)

You did wrong to her and she did wrong to you. Overall you harmed each other. Better stop it. Better end this relationship for the benefit of the two of you. If you want, you can give her or later send her some of the money she gave you or spent on you, as restitution. Or not. But end it kindly and completely. It is the right thing to do.

anita