Dear Cat:

The foot cramp method of dealing with pain and distressing emotions helped me greatly build my confidence in my ability to endure difficult emotions. When we are less and less scared of (emotional) pain, believing we will survive it, and that we can survive it without getting ourselves or others into trouble (drugs, raging at another, and so on), what happens is that that fear is removed from the pain, and the pain itself is less overwhelming.

It is peeling off the fear from the pain.

Regarding your sister having the BPD diagnosis. Has she ended the relationship with you repeatedly and then got back together with you?

I also wonder if she feels that she is stuck with that diagnosis, if she believes it is a lifetime condition? Do you?

anita