Dear Bellamondo:

If your adult children do not need you, it may be that you did a good job as their mother. I learned that when children do not get what they need as children, they grow up to be adult children still needing the mother/ parents.

If so, congratulations for doing an excellent job as a mother!

What do you think of the quality of your mothering so far, do you think you deserve being congratulated for an excellent job?

anita