Hi Dia,

Your brother’s role in the family is  The Little Prince. Your role in the family is the Other Mother. What would happen if you stopped playing your role? The problem isn’t your brother. It’s the family system and the family dynamics.

Let your parents coddle your brother. But don’t run over there worrying about him, taking care of him, giving him advice, whatever you typically do.

Just tell your family, “My brother seems fine.” And live your own life!

If, in the future, he runs to you with his issues, reply, “That sounds like a personal problem. I’m sure you can handle it. I believe in you!”

For a while you might be the designated Family Problem because you’re not “helping”. But what will happen is you will tacitly give the other family members permission to live their own lives as well.

Best,

Inky