Anita,

I have been With Tom For 5 years, I got pregnant withing the first month of reconnecting with him. our daughter is 4 currently.  I separated From my Tom 3 months ago. And have been talking to Harry Platonic since we separated, thought we decided to start seeing each other romantically and exclusively 1 month ago. Based on his interactions with others as well as how, he lives his life these are the deductions I’ve made.  It’s just a hard judgement to make because there are so many what if’s involved. What if I go back to Tom and things stay the same. What is I stay with Harry and I continue to harbor feeling for Tom. The there is my daughter who’s not to sure whats going on asking why dad and mommy keeping fighting which makes it harder.

When I originally left I was doing it to pressure my own happiness and heal the emotional wound Tom has caused me. I was unshaken in my resolve, and knew that what I was doing was what was best for my family. But now I’m not to certain, I am filled with doubt and am unsure what I really want. I know if I choose Tom I loose Harry for good As Tom is extremely territorial about me talking to Men in general. If I choose Harry, Tom with have to stay apart of my life due to our child but will continue to put strain on my relationship due to his resentment toward the situation.