Dear Hannah:

You wrote that your husband was full of anger and passive aggressive before you separated from him. You didn’t see him for six months. Yesterday you saw him and he was “calm, reasonable, understanding and rational”. You wrote that he was “exactly the person I had needed back when I was depressed and out of control”.

If he is now consistently (although not perfectly, of course), calm, reasonable, understanding and rational since he no longer lives with you, but was full of anger and passive aggressive when he lived with you, maybe it is good for him to remain separated from you. It could be what brought about his well-being. 

I believe that it will be a good idea “give (your) marriage another go”, the title of your thread, if such marriage will be a Win-Win deal, win for you and win for him. If it is a Lose for either one of you, it will bring about a bad marriage.

If he is interested in giving it another go, and so are you, lots of talking should be taking place.

anita