Hi Anita,

I’ve been researching alot on both topics, they are the same in a few areas.

Co dependency to me is where the relationship is one sided, the co dependant partner relys on the other for emotion sopport and validation, they are only happy if their partner is. The co dependant cant made decisions and support themselves, in the relationship they please and do more than their fair share.

Nice guy is a person who tries to be nice but can’t voice their needs and wants, they use covert contacts being nice to get what they want, when they dont get what they want, they become passive aggressive.

Both are unable to confront people and stand up for themselves.

Like others have said I blame myself alot.

I’ll relate my behaviour to these a little later.

Regards

Stuart