Dear Not-so-lost-star:

Well, if I can be of help during this trip, when you do need help, post here anytime and when I am at the computer (I am daily), I will reply every time you post.

Your point about being dominant during this trip, unlike your role otherwise, at home and elsewhere, makes sense to me. New circumstances make new experiences possible.

During your thread you shared that renting your own apartment where you live is too expensive, that renting a room in someone’s home doesn’t make sense, that you are saving money to buy your own home by living rent free with your father, that you don’t interact with him much except for about ten minutes a day… It sounded to me at that point that you are living with him out of financial circumstances and a sense of that filial duty you mentioned. Now I add to the mix of these two things the feeling of safety.

This feeling of safety obviously does not require much communication or more than ten minutes per day of trivial exchange. I suppose it is just the sight of him, his voice, knowing that he is physically there, in the house or that he will soon be there.

Healing and managing anxiety has to do with insight, as what we are communicating about right now, as well as skills to manage it.

anita