Dear Sophie:

Welcome back. Once you move in, sooner than later, you will struggle, I believe simply because you have struggled before. Here is what you wrote June last year: “I have anxiety in relationships… I get insecure, blame him for not showing me attention… i’m telling myself he doesn’t love me just to make it easier on myself by pushing him away”-

You can re-read your own posts in previous threads, see what you are likely to encounter when you do move in, the difficulties you had before. Pay attention. Share with him responsibly (not expecting him to fix your difficulties). Balance time alone, while living with him, with time together. Have good communication, find reasonable solutions to conflicts. Avoid fighting- not a must in a relationship, it harms, doesn’t help, to argue and to fight.

How has your communication been so far, within these two monthsI wonder. Did you already encounter conflicts and if you did, how did the two of you resolve those?

anita