Dear Ann:

Regarding one answer you received: “I am trying to move cities soon so I don’t want to get attached”- if you live in a city that many young people want to leave, that would make sense that you would often get this as a reason to not continue a relationship.

As to “why men speak in the beginning, promising all sorts of things only to completely change their tone weeks later”- there are a few possibilities to why this happens in your experience, repeatedly. In some cultures more than in others, men pursue women for sexual experience. After being satisfied, they move on to someone new. To reduce the chances of this happening in your life, it is a good idea for a woman to not be engaged physically with a man for long enough time to get to know him, what he values, his lifestyle and his past experience.

Another possibility: there is something about your behavior that discourages men’s initial interest in you. That could be anything from… poor hygiene to non-stop talking, too many things to mention.

What do you think?

anita